Richard Alongi

Richard Alongi is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) in California who helps people facing addiction, relationship strain, grief, anxiety, and major life changes. He focuses on practical support for intimacy concerns, low self-esteem, motivation, and coping with stress. His style is respectful and compassionate, and he aims to tailor conversations and plans to each person's needs.

With 36 years of practice as an LMFT, Alongi draws on long experience to guide clients through difficult moments. He uses a mix of approaches to match the person in front of him rather than applying one fixed method. Sessions center on clear goals and steady, collaborative steps toward change.

His work often includes addressing attachment wounds, boundaries, and patterns that show up in close relationships. He helps people explore feelings behind anger, emptiness, or urges that lead to substance use. For clients navigating caregiving stress, aging concerns, or separation, he focuses on practical coping strategies and emotional processing.

Alongi also brings approaches that consider deeper personal meaning and life story. That perspective can be useful for people wrestling with identity, dissociation, or longstanding patterns that affect relationships and work. He encourages honest conversation and gradual experimentation with new ways of relating.

If you prefer a therapist who listens first and builds steps together, Alongi frames therapy as a partnership. He asks questions, checks in on what’s working, and adjusts plans so progress fits your life and goals.

Therapeutic approaches and how they work online

Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationships influence current patterns. It helps people understand trust, closeness, and avoidance in their adult relationships. Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening closely and meeting you where you are; the therapist reflects your experience and supports your own problem solving. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) helps people identify and shift emotional responses in important relationships, which can reduce conflict and increase connection.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will discuss goals, try different ways of working, and adjust methods based on what helps most. This is a collaborative process that prioritizes your needs and preferences.

If you are considering online options, confirm the available session formats before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life, reduce travel time, and allow shorter check-ins when needed. It can also help maintain continuity of care during transitions like relocation or changes in work schedule. Ask about scheduling and session length when you complete the matching questionnaire so arrangements match your routine and goals.